| II Samuel 13
II Samuel 12 opened with Father's prophet Nathan going to David and posing a parable to him concerning two men: one rich, representative of David himself; and, one poor, representative of Uriah the Hittite, husband of Bath-sheba. In this parable, the rich man had many herds and flocks, more than he could count or number, whereas the poor man had but one little ewe lamb (representative of Bath-sheba) whom he kept in his house as a pet, so close and well did the poor man keep this little lamb that it was more like a family member than a pet. As the parable unfolded, we found that a traveller had come to town and the rich man had taken him in; however, rather than taking one from his among own many flocks and herds to dress and feed the traveller, he took the lone little ewe lamb from the poor man, dressed it and fed it to the traveller.
The parable had its desired effect on David, as, he became very angry, and, he immediately replied to Nathan that the rich man deserved death and that he was to restore the lamb fourfold to the poor man because he had did this; but, also, because, he had no pity for doing so. As soon as he finished speaking, Nathan told him that the rich man was indeed him, the poor man was Uriah the Hittite, and the little lamb was Bath-sheba. Father speaking through Nathan continued by telling David that it was He Who had sent Samuel to anoint him as the next king of Israel, and, had David asked, Father would have given him anything his heart desired, within reason of course. Father continued, detailing the punishment David would receive – the child which would be born of David and Bath-sheba would die and return Home to Him; the sword—meaning violence—would never depart from his household; and, the adultery he and Bath-sheba committed in secrecy would come back and haunt David by one of his sons committing adultery with his wives - in public.
Again, upon hearing that the rich man was representative of him, and of what Father’s punishment was to be, David immediately replied that he had sinned, and then repented. We found that acknowledging your sin before Father begins the process of removing that sin; however, it does not take it away. That requires repentance; but, even upon acknowledgment and repentance, there is still a penalty to pay to Father, which must also be accepted by the sinner, and, in David’s case, it was that all the Father said would come to pass, would indeed happen as Father detailed to him through Nathan the prophet.
The chapter closed with the child—a son—dying; then David going in to comfort Bath-sheba, laying with her, she conceiving and baring a son whom they named Solomon; and also Joab—David’s nephew and General over the Israelite Army who at the time was still engaged against Hanun and the Ammonites, besieging their city Rabbah and about to conquer it—sending a messenger back to David telling him to bring the rest of the Army along with him in order to finish conquering and capturing the city, and, thus having it named after him and not Joab.
This then brings us to present time—David’s, not ours—and the violence that Father promised would come upon David’s family, beginning with the rape of one of his daughters – Tamar, by one of his sons - Amnon, Tamar’s half-brother. So, let’s get right to it and read of it and the consequences of this rape.
2:1-24:25 KING DAVID. (Division)
5:1-24:25 The Kingdom. United.
5:1-24:25 KINGDOM UNITED. (Introversion with Alternations.)
10:6-20:22 Wars and events:
13:1-20:22 David’s sin. Punished.
13:1-20:22 DAVID’S SIN. PUNISHED. (Division.)
13:1-14:33 Amnon’s sin.
13:1-14:33 AMNON’S SIN. (Introversion and Extended Alternation.)
13:1-4 Amnon’s desire for sister’s love.
II Samuel 13:1 And it came to pass after this, that Absalom (father of peace [that is] friendly; or, father of peace) the son of David had a fair sister, whose name was Tamar (palm tree); and Amnon (faithful) the son of David loved her. -> Absalom= Absalom was David's third eldest son, born in Hebron by his wife Maacah, the daughter of Talmai the king of Geshur, this wife also bare unto him - Tamar, his daughter.
Amnon=Amnon was David's oldest son, like his step-brother Absalom, he also was born in Hebron, though his mother was Ahinoam the Jezreelitess.
So, what we have here, is Amnon lusting--and, not loving, as the future verses will document-- after his step-sister Tamar, which is contrary to Father's Laws of incest which are laid out in Leviticus 18:6,9,11. The year is approximately 938 B.C., David is 52, Amnon is 22, Absalom is 20, Tamar is 15 and Solomon is 2. Tamar being 15, is still a virgin, as we'll read in the next verse.
Absalom=Absalom, which pronounced is ab-shaw-lome', is a Derivative "ab" and "shalom," - "ab" meaning, father; and, "shalom" meaning, peace - hence Absalom's name meaning "father of peace." Noteworthy also, is the fact that Absalom was born in the Jubilee year of 958-957. It will be Absalom who in the future will try and usurp the throne from his father David. He'll go so far as sitting in the gate--the place of judgment--and as the people go by; he'll ask them if the judgment went the way they thought it should have. If they say, "yes," then he just let them go; however, if they happened to say, "no," then, he quickly replied, "if I was king, I would have ruled in your favor," all in order to gain their "trust" and support. He also hired men to run in front of his chariot wherever he went, declaring, "make way for Absalom.".
Tamar=Daughter of David and Maachah the Geshurite princess, and thus sister of Absalom II Samuel 13:1-32; and I Chronicles 3:9. She and her brother were alike remarkable for their extraordinary beauty. This fatal beauty inspired a frantic passion in her half-brother Amnon, the oldest son of David by Ahinoam. In her touching remonstrance two points are remarkable: first, the expression of the infamy of such a crime "in Israel" implying the loftier standard of morals that prevailed, as compared with other countries at that time; and second, the belief that even this standard might be overborne lawfully by royal authority --"Speak to the king, for he will not withhold me from thee." The intense hatred of Amnon succeeding to his brutal passion, and the indignation of Tamar at his barbarous insult, even surpassing her indignation at his shameful outrage, are pathetically and graphically told..
Amnon=He dishonored his half-sister Tamar, and was in consequence murdered by her brother II Samuel 13:1-29..
II Samuel 13:2 And Amnon was so vexed, that he fell sick for his sister Tamar; for she was a virgin; and Amnon thought it hard for him to do any thing to her. -> Being children of two different mothers, they therefore lived in two separate houses, and only saw each other occasionally. Amnon though seeing his younger step-sister, thought she very beautiful and his feelings stirred in him. Now he being 22 and she being 15, he should have never even considered pursuing after her, and her being yet a virgin made her even more off-limits to him.
II Samuel 13:3 But Amnon had a friend, whose name was Jonadab (whom YHVH impels), the son of Shimeah (annunciation) David's brother: and Jonadab was a very subtil man. -> Subtil=Though the word subtil--H2450 chakam--as used here, is different from the first time it is used--in Genesis 3:1-H6175 arum--its meaning is very similar. They both mean cunning in a bad sense, and, they are both used in connection with a man having lay with a women. In Genesis 3, the serpent was subtil and beguiled (H5377 nasha - [morally] to seduce) Eve, and here, it is used to set-up the rape of Tamar. Also peculiar is the fact that there are two Tamar's in Father's Word, and like the word subtil, both are Tamar's connected with sex. In the first instance--in Genesis 38--Judah marries a Canaanitess - Shuah, who bare him Er, Onan and Shelah. When they became of age, Er (a mixture of Israelite and Canaanite, not allowed according to Father) took a woman - Tamar, an Israelitess to wife. Ur died before he had any children, so Judah told his second son Onan--rightfully so according to law at the time--to go and marry Tamar and have the first child receive Er's portion of inheritance. Father called Onan Home before he also could have any children, so, Judah told Tamar to go back to her family, as, he would not give his third child to this woman out of fear he also might die. The next year when it was sheep-shearing time, as was his usual custom, Judah went looking for a harlot to lay with, Tamar knowing Judah's custom, disguised herself and lay with her father-in-law, when she asked him how he would pay her for laying with her, he replied - a kid of the goats; though he would have to send it back to her after he returned home, she then required of him a pledge, his signet ring, bracelets and staff. When his friend an Adullamite, when to pay Tamar and receive back his ring, bracelets and staff, he noticed that Tamar, who was impregnated by Judah, was showing signs of being pregnant, he then told Judah that his daughter-in-law had played the harlot and is in the way of child. To make a long story short, Judah then sent for Tamar and demanded of her who caused her to be with child and immediately followed by saying "because of her whoredoms, she was to be burnt," she then revealed her pledge of signet, bracelets and staff and Judah acknowledged they were his and told her that she had been more righteous than he. It would be through that Tamar that this very King-line of David, and the King-line of Christ--the other third of Jesus' flesh would be of the tribe of Levi - the priest-line--would come.
Anyway, Amnon's friend Jonadab is a schemer, and when Amnon tells him of his lust for his younger step-sister Tamar, Jonadab immediately tells Amnon how to plot a devious scheme, in order to bed Tamar, whom they both correctly assume will not willingly lay with her older step-brother.
Jonadab=According to this verse, this Jonadab is a friend of Amnon's, of course, in the Hebrew language there is no such word as cousin, and also according to this verse, that is what this Jonadab is supposed to be - Amnon's father's brother's son - or cousin. There are only two people in all of Father's Word named Jonadab, this one here and the other we find in Jeremiah 35, that one happens to be the son of Rechab - Jeremiah 35 and Rechab should immediately start your brain to thinking. The two Jonadabs are not the same; however, at least in Jeremiah 35 we can trace the lineage of that Jonadab. This one, the only place in Father's Word he is mentioned as being an Israelite, is right here in II Samuel 13, he is not found in the genealogy listings of I Chronicles. This then in my mind, makes this Jonadab just as suspect as the one found in Jeremiah 35, especially considering that immediately upon being introduced to him, he is identified as being subtil - deceptive, cunning; but, also because of what he is about to recommend to Amnon in his assistance of Amnon going against Father's Law. I'll go out on a limb and say that "yes" this one was living amongst the Israelites; however, methinks that he was a nethinim, and, that, a kenite scribe had his hand in this and identified him as being Shimeah's son which makes a whole lot more sense, considering his actions and recommendation to Amnon.
Jonadab=Son of Shimeah and nephew of David. He is described as "very subtle" II Samuel 13:3. His age naturally made him the friend of his cousin Amnon, heir to the throne. He gave him the fatal advice for ensnaring his sister Tamar II Samuel 13:5-6. Again, when, in a later stage of the same tragedy, Amnon was murdered by Absalom, and the exaggerated report reached David that all the princes were slaughtered, Jonadab was already aware of the real state of the case II Samuel 13:32-33..
Shimeah=Brother of David, and father of Jonathan and Jonadab II Samuel 13:3; 21:21, called also Shammah, Shimea, and Shimma..
II Samuel 13:4 And he (Jonadab) said unto him (Amnon), “Why art thou, being the king's son, lean from day to day? wilt thou not tell me?” And Amnon said unto him, “I love Tamar, my brother Absalom's sister.” -> This Jonadab asks Amnon more-or-less - "what is wrong Amnon, you are the king's oldest son - heir-apparent to the throne, you have all the world catering to your every need, why are you acting, and, what could possibly have you so down and depressed?" Amnon replies with the only think that is on his mind at present - I have the hots for my step-sister and want to bed her; but, I know she'll probably deny my advances and I don't know what to do about it.
13:5-22 Amnon’s sin.
II Samuel 13:5 And Jonadab said unto him, “Lay thee down on thy bed, and make thyself sick: and when thy father cometh to see thee, say unto him, ‘I pray thee, let my sister Tamar come, and give me meat, and dress the meat in my sight, that I may see it, and eat it at her hand.’” -> Remember, this is Jonadab telling Amnon how to plot this scheme of getting Tamar into his bed-chamber, in order that, Amnon be able to carry out the plan Jonadab is laying out for him to rape his own fifteen year old virgin step-sister, a girl seven years his junior. There is nothing right or honorable about any of this.
II Samuel 13:6 So Amnon lay down, and made himself sick: and when the king was come to see him, Amnon said unto the king, “I pray thee, let Tamar my sister come, and make me a couple of cakes in my sight, that I may eat at her hand.” -> Obviously Amnon has no morals, or, any, sense of right or wrong, as, he has taken Jonadab's advice, and almost followed it to the letter - he feigns illness as his father walks into his house.
David falls for this, hook, line and sinker, never once suspecting why his oldest son of one wife, would ask for his 15 year old daughter from another wife, to come to his house to make him something to eat. Alarm bells should have been sounding in David's head; but, he carries out this eldest son's request.
II Samuel 13:7 Then David sent home to Tamar, saying, “Go now to thy brother Amnon's house, and dress him meat.” -> David calls for his daughter Tamar and tells her to go to her older brother and to make him a nice meal to help him feel better. The--not so funny--thing is, in reality, Tamar was the "meat" that Amnon wanted, and, he wanted her UN-dressed. Sadly for all involved, this is not going to turn out well, and, especially not for the unsuspecting Tamar.
II Samuel 13:8 So Tamar went to her brother Amnon's house; and he was laid down. And she took flour, and kneaded it, and made cakes in his sight, and did bake the cakes. -> Tamar obeyed her father and goes to Amnon's house to offer the heir- apparent a "feel good about himself" meal of fig-cakes, her intent is obviously to make him feel better by giving him a delicious breakfast. Of course at this point she, like her father, was still unsuspecting of the plot to rape her, by her oldest step-brother.
II Samuel 13:9 And she took a pan, and poured them out before him; but he refused to eat. And Amnon said, “Have out all men from me.” And they went out every man from him. -> Tamar has all the ingredients and the griddle ready and pours the batter onto the griddle, getting them done just so, but to her surprise, Amnon refuses to eat any of them. Then, furthering her surprise, he next orders all his male servants out of his house - he obviously doesn't want any witnesses to what he is about to do, nor does he want anybody around who also might put forth protestations, or, might even fight against him in trying to stop him from raping his step-sister.
II Samuel 13:10 And Amnon said unto Tamar, “Bring the meat into the chamber, that I may eat of thine hand.” And Tamar took the cakes which she had made, and brought them into the chamber to Amnon her brother. -> After everyone had left and only Tamar was there with Amnon, Amnon next tells Tamar that he wanted to be served the fig-cakes in his bed-chamber. Tamar is a fifteen year old girl and she was innocent of the wickedness on the mind of her older step-brother. She is trying to make him well and naturally she would try to please him by fulfilling his request of serving him in bed.
II Samuel 13:11 And when she had brought them unto him to eat, he took hold of her, and said unto her, “Come lie with me, my sister.” -> After baking all the fig-cakes, Tamar brings them to Amnon's bed-chamber so he could eat them. Again, catching her completely off-guard, Amnon now grabs ahold of Tamar, reveals his plan, and tells Tamar that it isn't really the fig-cakes he's after, it's her.
Come lie with me=Let there be no doubt, Amnon isn't asking Tamar to "just lie down with him to make him feel better," what he's after is sexual intercourse with his step-sister. As we'll quickly see in the next verse, Tamar, though 15, now understands exactly what it is her oldest brother is after, she'll even warn him about trying to take her be force.
II Samuel 13:12 And she answered him, “Nay, my brother, do not force me; for no such thing ought to be done in Israel: do not thou this folly. -> Though still only 15, Tamar has been taught the Law very well. She knows that according to Leviticus 18:6-9,11 brothers and sisters are not to have sexual relations between them.
II Samuel 13:13 And I, whither shall I cause my shame to go? and as for thee, thou shalt be as one of the fools in Israel. Now therefore, I pray thee, speak unto the king; for he will not withhold me from thee.” -> Tamar continues telling Amnon that Leviticus 20:17 states: Leviticus 20:17 And if a man shall take his sister, his father's daughter, or his mother's daughter, and see her nakedness, and she see his nakedness; it is a wicked thing; and they shall be cut off in the sight of their people: he hath uncovered his sister's nakedness; he shall bear his iniquity. -> Rightfully so, she reminds her brother of this. Further, she knows that she would from this day forward--though he forced her, there might still be some who wouldn't believe her--be cut off from all her friends and all the people of Israel, and she doesn't want that.
Speak unto the king=Finally in desperation--and in hopes that by mentioning their father, it might bring Amnon to his senses--she tells her step-brother that should their father agree that the two of them can marry, then she will willingly give herself to him. Of course, both Tamar and Amnon know that the king would never go along with an illegal marriage, with such filthy acts as incest, nor would he allow such a thing in one of his houses, especially after what had happened to him because of his sinful acts.
II Samuel 13:14 Howbeit he would not hearken unto her voice: but, being stronger than she, forced her, and lay with her. -> After all her pleading with him, Amnon would not change his mind nor his course, and, being stronger than his 15 year old step-sister he forced her against her will, and raped her.
As we can read in Deuteronomy 22, the penalty for raping a woman is death.
II Samuel 13:15 Then Amnon hated her exceedingly; so that the hatred wherewith he hated her was greater than the love (let's correct this to read "lust") wherewith he had loved (lusted after her) her. And Amnon said unto her, “Arise, be gone.” -> Talk about heaping on insult to injury! First her older step-brother forces her against her will and rapes her, and now that he has committed this atrocious act, he can't stand the sight of her and kicks her out of his house, and in such an offensive and dismissive way - "arise, be gone." I remind you brethren, this is a 15 year old girl who has just been humbled and shamed.
II Samuel 13:16 And she said unto him, “There is no cause: this evil in sending me away is greater than the other that thou didst unto me.” But he would not hearken unto her. -> There is no cause=In the Strong's Concordance, this is Hebrew word number H408 - אל, - 'al, pronounced – al, and means: A negative particle (akin to H3808); not (the qualified negation, used as a deprecative); once (Job 24:25) as a noun, nothing: - nay, neither, + never, no, nor, not, nothing [worth], rather than., so in other words, Tamar is saying that Amnon is giving no room for conversation concerning this evil which has befallen her, and, by his sending her away in such a dismissive tone and manner, he is bringing even more shame upon her than the shame and humiliation of having been raped by him. She continues to try and talk sense into her older step-brother by saying unto him that should anybody find this out, then it would bring about public guilt of having been sent away, and, it might even be said that, it just might have been she who brought this about by maybe seducing him? - No, not a good predicament at all for a 15 year old girl to be in.
II Samuel 13:17 Then he called his servant that ministered unto him, and said, “Put now this woman out from me, and bolt the door after her.” -> Amnon got what he wanted--by taking it by force--from his step-sister and now he is through with her, so he calls for his servant and tells him to throw her out and lock the door behind her. This servant will now think that it was she who caused this negative reaction by Amnon, and, if he is a gossip spreader, then the stories will fly, and most likely that she did indeed seduced him and he is now disgusted with her for allowing himself to be beguiled by her.
This leads us back to Jonadab, and, no, I am not removing the blame from Amnon, as, it was he still who was lustful for his sister, so the blame lies squarely on his shoulders; but, what I am saying is this: if the Jonadab of this chapter is in fact a full-blooded Israelite, he most likely would have persuaded Amnon to alter his thoughts concerning Tamar - his cousin as well. However, if this Jonadab is indeed a kenite nethinim whom a kenite scribe ascribed as being a son of David's brother, it better fits the advice he gave to Amnon. The kenites like to mix in unawares and destroy from within as is evidenced from their future actions of taking over the scribeship and the priesthood, it was also they who in the future "claimed" they were the "Jews" when they crucified Jesus, yes, I know, they didn't do the actual hanging on the cross, they had the Romans do it for them. But, this still fits their means and ways.
II Samuel 13:18 And she had a garment of divers colours upon her: for with such robes were the king's daughters that were virgins apparelled. Then his servant brought her out, and bolted the door after her. -> She had a garment of divers colours=The king's virgin daughters were all identified as being such by their long and sleeved tunics. Will Tamar now continue to wear hers in an effort to show that she is still a virgin? It truly poses a problem because as we read in Deuteronomy 22:13 If any man take a wife, and go in unto her, and hate her, -> If a man on his wedding night goes in to his wife to consummate their vows. [22:14] And give occasions of speech against her, and bring up an evil name upon her, and say, ‘I took this woman, and when I came to her, I found her not a maid:’ -> And for some reason the next morning he now speaks evil or badly against her claiming that she was not a virgin. Remember this was over 2,000 years ago and premarital sex was very uncommon among the Israelites at the time for several reasons: a dowry was paid to the woman’s family, and the family accepted the dowry as—in a sense—proof that she was undamaged goods, meaning she was a virgin. [22:15] Then shall the father of the damsel, and her mother, take and bring forth the tokens of the damsel's virginity unto the elders of the city in the gate: -> During my first cruise after I joined the Navy, prior to pulling into Italy, I had heard stories of newly married couples hanging the honeymoon sheets out on the windowsills, at the time, I never understood why this custom was, of course later I learned the reason. But, here in this verse we also see the reason, as proof of the woman’s virginity. So, what this verse is saying is, that, if a man the morning after his wedding night consummation now comes out and for some reason he is dissatisfied with his new bride, and he now “claims” she was not a virgin, then the woman’s parents have the right to go into the wedding night bed-chamber in order to remove the wedding night sheets and bring them to the elders of the city in order to prove their daughter was indeed a virgin. [22:16] And the damsel's father shall say unto the elders, ‘I gave my daughter unto this man to wife, and he hateth her; -> The woman’s father has the right to claim—after proving—that his now son-in-law is speaking falsely against his daughter. [22:17] And, lo, he hath given occasions of speech against her, saying, I found not thy daughter a maid; and yet these are the tokens of my daughter's virginity. And they shall spread the cloth before the elders of the city. -> I guess depending upon your take, this is either a major embarrassment for the girl, or, a sign of good faith. [22:18] And the elders of that city shall take that man and chastise him; -> If the woman’s husband falsely accuses the woman, then the elders of the city have every right to punish the man for bringing the false accusation. [22:19] And they shall amerce him in an hundred shekels of silver, and give them unto the father of the damsel, because he hath brought up an evil name upon a virgin of Israel: and she shall be his wife; he may not put her away all his days. -> So, after paying a dowry for receiving a virgin, he now falsely claims to have received a woman who had previously been with a man and lay with him in intercourse, the new husband must now pay the bride’s father 100 shekels of silver and is not allowed to put the woman out, he must stay married to her; however: [22:20] But if this thing be true, and the tokens of virginity be not found for the damsel: -> If the proof is not in the pudding so to speak and the woman is as the man claimed – not a virgin, then: [22:21] Then they shall bring out the damsel to the door of her father's house, and the men of her city shall stone her with stones that she die: because she hath wrought folly in Israel, to play the whore in her father's house: so shalt thou put evil away from among you. -> The man (groom), the man’s father and the elders of the city, then have the duty—not just the right; but, the duty—to bring the woman who claimed she was a virgin, to the door of her father’s house and there in front of both father and mother and all the city, to stone her to death because she has brought disgrace to her family and the city.
So, we can see the problem this poses for young 15 year old Miss Tamar. Does she now remove her long and sleeved tunic and openly display she is no longer a virgin, making people think she is a whore, and thereby subjecting herself to a life of single womanhood never being taken care of except by her family – her parents; or, does she continue to wear it and then when it comes to light on her wedding night disgrace her father the king?
This though, also has much deeper, Spiritual connotations, concerning the Bride of Christ which we aspire to be. If you don’t know Father’s Word well enough, you could fall victim to the wrong husband and when the True arrives for his virgin bride, what is He going to say to those who are no longer virgins? “Get thee away from Me, for, I never knew you.” As Father’s Word declares, those will then pray for the mountains to fall upon them. Imagine brethren, after having sat in a “house of god” for 10, 20 years or even longer and having never been taught the truth; but, instead listened only to the preacher speaking his “feel good” words, or false teachings and traditions of man, never having been taught that the false, pretend-to-be-christ arrives first to claim his “bride,” and when True shows the disgrace, shame and horror they’ll feel for having been deceived.
His servant brought her out, and bolted the door after her=Notice this Servant has already started showing contempt for this Daughter of the King. I don't care that he is Amnon's servant, that doesn't make his disrespect of Tamar and treating her like a "commoner," right.
13:19-22 EMOTIONS. (Alternations.)
13:19 Grief of Tamar.
II Samuel 13:19 And Tamar put ashes on her head, and rent her garment of divers colours that was on her, and laid her hand on her head, and went on crying. -> Again, young Miss Tamar is showing more signs of maturity than that of her older step-brother Amnon. She puts ashes on her head as a sign of mourning and then tears her tunic showing herself to no longer be a virgin, deceiving no one. This pretty much destroyed Tamar, for, she knows that she is now destined to a life of solitude, of being an "old maid," never marrying or having children. How will others in the kingdom take this sign? Most likely that she, though 15, betrayed her parents--the king at that--and family by playing the whore. So, as we see, though she did nothing wrong, the lust of Amnon and the advice of the kenite nethinim Jonadab are going to have far reaching consequences.
13:20 Absalom’s dissimulation.
II Samuel 13:20 And Absalom her brother said unto her, “Hath Amnon thy brother been with thee? but hold now thy peace, my sister: he is thy brother; regard not this thing.” So Tamar remained desolate in her brother Absalom's house. -> Arriving home with ashes on her head and her tunic torn, Absalom immediately recognizes the signs for what they were - she's no longer a virgin and by her loud sobbing and weeping, he also instantly recognizes that it was not by her choice. Absalom knows as does everybody else in the king's family, that Amnon told the king to have Tamar come to him to help cheer him up, and now here she is in this condition - it can only mean one thing - Amnon their step-brother, raped her.
Hold now thy peace, my sister=Absalom tells Tamar to not worry herself over the matter, to not consider revenge, as, things like this have a way of taking care of themself. What is not said by Absalom is that he is already plotting to revenge her himself.
13:21 Anger of David.
II Samuel 13:21 But when king David heard of all these things, he was very wroth. -> When David hears of the rape of his daughter by his oldest son, yeah, he's ticked, and he has every right to be. But, he also should be--and most likely is--also angry with himself. Why? Because all that Father prophesied concerning the sword and violence forever being in his house, through Nathan the prophet in II Samuel 12, is starting to come to pass. It was David's own actions which have brought all this to come about. David loved his family, and now he can see his family household starting to fall apart. Brother is raping sister, and soon brother will be killing brother, and then where will it all end? David was mad at himself, because he knows that Father is allowing this to come to pass. This was the very sentence that he passed on his own house, when Nathan gave him the parable of the rich man and poor man with his little lamb.
He was very wroth=David becomes angry; however, as we'll notice as we continue reading here in II Samuel 13, he doesn't do anything concerning the rape of his daughter, nor the incest committed by his son on his daughter. As king, he is responsible for handing out judgment and sentence. According to Deuteronomy the sentence in both cases--incest and rape--was death, and by his not doing anything within his own house, the people of the kingdom now have to think about all his other sentences his has handed down - were they correct and just?
13:22 Absalom’s hatred.
II Samuel 13:22 And Absalom spake unto his brother Amnon neither good nor bad: for Absalom hated Amnon, because he had forced his sister Tamar. -> Absalom never said a word to Amnon concerning the matter, he didn't seek him out to challenge him or, argue with him about what he did, he was patient and bided his time, selecting the right moment to avenge the rape of his sister. He'll avenge her; but, it'll be on his terms, to where it would be well known why the death of Amnon had come about. Absalom knew it all, yet he said not one word that would allow Amnon to know the hatred he now had for him. As far as Amnon was concerned, they were still close brothers and friends.
13:23-14:24 Absalom’s revenge.
II Samuel 13:23 And it came to pass after two full years, that Absalom had sheepshearers in Baal-hazor (possessor of a village; or, baal’s village or courtyard), which is beside Ephraim (double fruit; or, double portion): and Absalom invited all the king's sons. -> Two years have passed since the rape of Tamar and all this time Absalom has held his peace, Tamar too for that matter. As we know Sheep shearing time was a time when all the men folk shaved their flocks in order to sell the wool and make some money; but, as we first saw all the way back in Genesis with Judah, it was also a time when men drank strong drink, and sought out the "comfort" of whores. To this point in time, times haven't changed.
Absalom knowing the traditions and customs of the times, decides that this would be a perfect excuse to invite his step-brother Amnon to his place in order to exact his revenge. So, he sends out messengers to all his brothers and step-brothers inviting them all to his place, where he has hired a sheep shearer, they can--as was custom--bring their sheep and party down while making some good money.
Baal-hazor=The place on the borders of Ephraim and Benjamin where Absalom held the feast of sheep-shearing when Amnon was assassinated II Samuel 13:23. Probably it is the same with Hazor Nehemiah 11:33, now Tell' Asur, 5 miles north-east of Bethel..
Ephraim=In "Baal-hazor which is by Ephraim" was Absalom's sheepfarm, at which took place the murder of Amnon, one of the earliest precursors of the great revolt II Samuel 13:23. There is no clue to its situation. – Ephraim was the portion of Canaan named after Joseph's second son. The boundaries of the portion of Ephraim are given in Joshua 16:1-10. The south boundary was coincident for part of its length with the north boundary of Benjamin. It extended from the Jordan on the east, at the reach opposite Jericho, to the Mediterranean on the west, probably about Joppa. On the north of Ephraim and Manasseh were the tribes of Asher, Zebulun and Issachar. The territory thus allotted to the "house of Joseph" may be roughly estimated at 55 miles from east to west by 70 from north to south. It was one at once of great richness and great security. Its fertile plains and well-watered valleys could only be reached by a laborious ascent through steep and narrow ravines, all but impassable for an army. Under Joshua the tribe must have taken a high position in the nation, to judge from the tone which the Ephraimites assumed on occasions shortly subsequent to the conquest. After the revolt of Jeroboam the history of Ephraim is the history of the kingdom of Israel, since not only did the tribe become a kingdom, but the kingdom embraced little besides the tribe..
II Samuel 13:24 And Absalom came to the king, and said, “Behold now, thy servant hath sheepshearers; let the king, I beseech thee, and his servants go with thy servant.” -> After sending the messengers to all his brothers, Absalom then also goes to his father in order to invite him to the sheep shearing festival. Absalom most likely knows that the king will decline as it wouldn't look good for the king to be partying down, even if it is with all his sons.
II Samuel 13:25 And the king said to Absalom, “Nay, my son, let us not all now go, lest we be chargeable unto thee.” And he pressed him: howbeit he would not go, but blessed him. -> As Absalom suspected, his father the king turned-down his invite. David knows that should he go, then all his servants will have to attend with him, and that might put a strain on Absalom's budget; but, the king being understanding that this is what young men of the time do, blessed Absalom and told him to throw a good "hoot of a party."
II Samuel 13:26 Then said Absalom, “If not, I pray thee, let my brother Amnon go with us.” And the king said unto him, “Why should he go with thee?” -> At the mention of Amnon's invite, David now grows just a little bit suspicious. David is no fool, he knows what Amnon did to Absalom's sister - his daughter and he outright asks Absalom what's up?
II Samuel 13:27 But Absalom pressed him, that he let Amnon and all the king's sons go with him. -> Absalom for his part, plays his father's suspicions off and presses him to urge Amnon to attend.
II Samuel 13:28 Now Absalom had commanded his servants, saying, “Mark ye now when Amnon's heart is merry with wine, and when I say unto you, Smite Amnon; then kill him, fear not: have not I commanded you? be courageous, and be valiant.” -> After departing his father, Absalom returns to his house and sets everything in motion for the grand sheep shearing festival. He also pulls his servants aside as the day of the big event draws close and secretly tells them that when they see his step-brother Amnon becoming a little too inebriated from the flowing of the wine, that they are to take him aside and kill him; and, to not worry about slaying Amnon, because, he'll take full responsibility for his death. For these servants this could pose some problems, especially considering that their immediate boss is commanding them to kill the Prince of Israel - the heir-apparent. Quite the dilemma for these servants, because in reality, Absalom, having no witnesses to his issuing this command to them, could deny the whole thing, and then have them killed for "murdering" his brother.
Notice the similarity between what is happening here and what David did in II Samuel 12? Just like in the murder of Uriah, David plotted the murder and had somebody else carry out the plan, so too here, Absalom is doing the scheming and going to have his servants performing the murder.
But, also remember brethren, Absalom is not in one sense operating outside of the law, his step-brother committed incest with his sister, and, he violated her by forcing her, therefore, as the law states, let the one who commits and the rapist be stoned with stones, in other words - pronounce the death penalty of them.
13:29-14:27 COMMOTIONS. (Divisions.)
13:29-39 Absalom’s flight.
13:29-39 ABSALOM’S FLIGHT. (Repeated Alternation.)
13:29 Flight of king’s sons.
II Samuel 13:29 And the servants of Absalom did unto Amnon as Absalom had commanded. Then all the king's sons arose, and every man gat him up upon his mule, and fled. -> True to their boss, Absalom's servants obey his command to fall upon Amnon once he intoxicated from drinking too much wine. As they do so, the remainder of David's sons see what is happening and decide that they better skedaddle before they too fall victim of Absalom and his servants. Of course they had nothing to fear unless they planned to intervene on Amnon's behalf. I guess if any of them had any right to be fearful, the main one would have been Daniel, as he was next in line above Absalom to the throne.
13:30-33 David. Anxiety.
II Samuel 13:30 And it came to pass, while they were in the way, that tidings came to David, saying, “Absalom hath slain all the king's sons, and there is not one of them left.” -> Several things to look at and pay attention to in this verse. I guess I'll start by discussing the phrase -"and there is not one of them left"=This is obviously not true, the only one Absalom was out to kill was his older step-brother Amnon and he had every reason to do so because of the rape of his little sister Tamar.
Now, on a larger note, let's look at this phrase - "while they were in the way"=The remainder of David sons was still riding their mules back from Baal-hazor, which, if you’ll recall, was on the border of the territories of Ephraim and Benjamin, many, many miles away when news of the slaying had already reached David, and the news he received was that every one of his sons were dead. Where did these tiding come from, when there was no instantaneous long-distance communications such as we have today, therefore, word could not and did not travel that quickly? Somebody knew beforehand that Amnon was going to be killed, and assumed that not just Amnon; but, all the sons of the king would also be slain. After witnessing their older brother get killed, these sons of David are returning home at full speed on their donkeys and they had not yet reached David. This is key to you and me, for, we are to pay attention to what is happening in order to be wise of the ways of the Kenites.
Why would I say that it was through their plot? Because if the Kenite Jonadab had done the killing, he would have killed every one of them, for that is the way that the Kenites are. However, the only one that Absalom cared about killing was Amnon, in avenging the rape and incest of his sister. The heart of a Kenite is evil and would have killed them all senselessly, and Jonadab assumed that Absalom was the same as he.
This also goes much deeper than on the surface here, for, it would be destroying all those in line to the crown over Israel. It also would have destroyed the lineage that the Christ child would come through. Our adversary satan has been trying since the time in the garden of Eden to destroy the lineage of Christ, and it started when his son Cain murdered his step-brother Able, just as Absalom killed his sinful step-brother Amnon. So, it should be obvious as to how the tidings arrived so quickly back to David long before anyone could have carried it. It was the subtle one who had helped plan the murder in the first place, not by his own hand; but, by his recommending to Amnon to carry-out his lustful desires and rape his step-sister. He knew what that would set in motion.
The Kenites are always trying to move in with the man at the top, and be in a spot of control should the time arrive. With all the sons dead, and Absalom the only son to be left alive, Jonadab thought he was in with the next in-line to the throne. Right there at the top to control the trade agreements and the protection of their merchandising.
II Samuel 13:31 Then the king arose, and tare his garments, and lay on the earth; and all his servants stood by with their clothes rent. -> Upon hearing the news that his third oldest son had killed all his other sons, David tore his clothes in a sign of mourning, and being unable to stand, he laid himself on the ground. David's servants seeing what he was doing, were not going to be caught not following suit, so each of them likewise tore their garments as well. Now, don't mistake what I'm saying here, as the king's servants truly were mournful at hearing of the loss of all his sons.
II Samuel 13:32 And Jonadab, the son of Shimeah David's brother, answered and said, “Let not my lord suppose that they have slain all the young men the king's sons; for Amnon only is dead: for by the appointment of Absalom this hath been determined from the day that he forced his sister Tamar. -> Jonadab...answered and said=Wait a minute, again, there are several things to think about concerning this. First of all, why is David's brother's son there with the king at this very point in time when he is receiving the news of the death of Amnon--all the king's sons? Now, I concur that I have visited with my uncles from time to time, and yes, it could be by sheer coincidence that he is there "just as the news arrives;" however, I'm not a believer in coincidences. As I said previously, Jonadab knew all along that there was a plot to kill Amnon this night, so he positioned himself to be there.
Notice also that it is he who tells David to "not suppose that they have slain all the young men of the king's sons; for only Amnon is dead"=There is no way on Father's green earth that Jonadab could have known this. But after he saw the effect of his first lie - that every one of David’s sons was killed, he now tones it down just a bit. So ask yourself, how would Jonadab know that only Amnon was dead? He wasn't there, Jonadab is modifying his story, just in case some of David’s other sons did escape. The statement that Jonadab is the son of Shimeah, David's brother, was also a lie, for though maybe Shimeah's wife had bare Jonadab, Shimeah was not the father. Again, think back to the Garden of Eden, for, this is just like that situation, Cain and Abel had the same mother – Eve; however, they had separate fathers. Cain’s father was none other than satan; whereas, Abel’s father was Adam. Everything about Jonadab, his thoughts and actions, and even his name was that of a Kenite, so why think any other way. How would Jonadab know all these things unless his hand was in this from the very start.
Remember, and yes, Amnon was lusting after Tamar; but, Jonadab placed the thought in Amnon's mind to do the act in the first place, he saw the devastation to Tamar, and he knew where Tamar had gone to stay. Jonadab had two years to plant the idea in the mind of Absalom, and see to it that the details of the plan were met. Then when it happened he place himself right near by the king. He directed the thoughts of David after the killing was completed. David had a spy in his own family, in his own household that sought to destroy his entire family, and his name was Jonadab.
II Samuel 13:33 Now therefore let not my lord the king take the thing to his heart, to think that all the king's sons are dead: for Amnon only is dead.” -> Jonadab still speaking to David here. Again, I remind you of several things: it was Jonadab who told Amnon how to conspire to get Tamar into his bed-chamber in order to rape her, and notice he conceals this fact as he's speaking to David; and also with him supposedly David's brother's son, that makes him David's nephew - cousins to Amnon, Absalom and Tamar, so here he is trying to score some points with David by providing him some information and "comfort."
13:34 Flight of Absalom.
13:34-36 David. Mourning.
II Samuel 13:34 But Absalom fled. And the young man that kept the watch lifted up his eyes, and looked, and, behold, there came much people by the way of the hill side behind him. -> After slaying his step-brother Amnon and seeing his other step-brothers flee for home, Absalom figures he isn't safe staying at his house in Baal-hazor, so he beats feet in the opposite direction for fear that once his step-brothers get back to David and give him the news, then David will gather up an armed guard or posse and come after him.
Meanwhile back in Jerusalem, David's watch-stander sees and large group of people in the distance coming towards the palace and immediately sounds the alarm. Of course this large group of people is David's sons - minus Amnon and Absalom.
II Samuel 13:35 And Jonadab said unto the king, “Behold, the king's sons come: as thy servant said, so it is.” -> Again, how did Jonadab know before the sons arrived that they were on their way, unless of course, Jonadab was the planner of the entire plot to kill Amnon, his cousin. Brethren, never underestimate subtlety. Never forget the 5 W’s – the Who, What, Where, When Why, and also How. Pay attention as to why and where the information is coming from and who is bringing the news. You can bet that these sons of David did arrive safely because Jonadab planned the whole thing. Even the rape of Tamar was his idea, along with the waiting for the right moment for the killing. The plan was timed to when Jonadab would be near the king, and would gain the greatest benefit from the entire plan. That is the way of the kenite, and it always will be.
This should be a lesson to us living today, for we too ought to be aware of the people who are making their claim, and the reality to what is being said. Pay attention to those little things which just don't add up, and seek the motives for the one making the statements.
II Samuel 13:36 And it came to pass, as soon as he had made an end of speaking, that, behold, the king's sons came, and lifted up their voice and wept: and the king also and all his servants wept very sore. -> As soon as Jonadab was finished "comforting" David with his soothing words, David's sons came through the palace doors. At the sight of their father, and because they now know they are safe and the danger behind them, they all break down and start crying. This is a common happening, to once a certain situation is past and the adrenaline subsides, then all the other emotions start to flow, and yes, even tears. Unlike his sons crying for now being safe, David is crying because he sees with his own eyes that not all of his sons are dead as originally reported.
13:37-38 Flight of Absalom.
II Samuel 13:37 But Absalom fled, and went to Talmai (ridged; or, bold), the son of Ammihud (people of splendor; or, people of praise), king of Geshur ([meaning to join] bridge; or, a bridge). And David mourned for his son every day. -> Absalom goes to Geshur where his mother Maacah's father Talmai lives, in other words, he is seeking protection from those on his maternal side, and he stays there for the next three years. At this point, David is mourning for his oldest son Amnon and not for Absalom. Absalom is still alive and out of the country, and in the location of Syria today.
And David mourned=The Septuagint reads, "David the king..."
Talmai=Son of Ammihud king of Geshur II Samuel 3:3; 13:37; and I Chronicles 3:2. He was probably a petty chieftain, dependent on David..
Ammihud=The father-of Talmai king of Geshur II Samuel 13:37..
Geshur=A little principality of Syria, northeast of Bashan Deuteronomy 3:14; and II Samuel 15:8. It is highly probable that Geshur was a section of the wild and rugged region now called el-Lejah, still a refuge for criminals and outlaws..
II Samuel 13:38 So Absalom fled, and went to Geshur, and was there three years. -> Absalom was fearful that David would hold him accountable for Amnon's death and kill him if he returned to Jerusalem, when in fact Amnon got what he deserved according to Father's law, for the rape of his sister Tamar; but, David would not hold Amnon accountable; but, instead looked upon Absalom as the criminal and considered his justifiable exacting and carrying-out of Father's Law, as murder. So, he just stayed in Geshur for the next three years until he thought it safe to return to Jerusalem.
13:39 David. Comforted.
II Samuel 13:39 And the soul of king David longed to go forth unto Absalom: for he was comforted concerning Amnon, seeing he was dead. -> As time wore on, David was comforted concerning the death of Amnon; but, as we'll see when we get to II Samuel 14, he still isn't ready just yet to forgive and forget what Absalom did.